Forgiveness (thirteen)

by admin on March 19, 2011 in Bits Of My Personality, Do I Call It Parenting Advice?, Feeling It (Thankful) with 1 Comment
(Riddick has nipped, my little fellow has punched… and yet they keep working on their relationship.)

When my children engage in fighting and hurt one another I ask them to forgive one another. They always want to know why… what is in it for them? I remind them that the other does love them and it is worth forgiving to keep that love whole. I remind them that the other person is more then the wrong they committed and worth the pain it takes to forgive them. I remind them they don’t have to prove how wronged they where by holding on to it, length of time brooding doesn’t prove how bad it was. A long held wrong only continues to hurt the one who holds on to it, the most and the more. “Is this the hill you want this relationship to die on?” and they always look at me… “Another words, is this issue more important then your brother/sister?” The answer, thank the Lord, has to date always been no it isn’t as important as him/her.

I, me thinks like most other adults, struggle with this when faced with times to forgive… all the more when loved ones are the culprit, when loved ones are the victim or when fear is involved in the hurt… I pray by teaching my kids these ideas about forgiveness young they will not struggle as we adults often do… I pray by teaching this I will indeed learn it myself…

I am not so proud that I assume the wrongs I have committed have ever been less then those committed against me or that my wrongs where easier to forgive… I am not so naive as to think I will not be in need of forgiveness from others in the future.

I just find it hard… I just find it scary… I just keep on forgiving and pray for forgiveness my way. I just keep letting the tears come as I remember what my forgiveness cost my God… how he loves me in the depths of my unloveableness… when I am messy… when I am ugly…. He loves me, Jesus forgives me… AND I AM SO THANKFUL FOR FORGIVENESS!

He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.
~George Herbert


TTFN

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One Comment on "Forgiveness (thirteen)"

  1. nanny says:
    March 19, 2011 at 5:14 pm

    Ephesians 4:32, infact the whole chapter says it all. I know I am so sad in the forgiving department and why should GOD ever forgive me so much. Thank you Jesus. Love you. MOM Going for my nap. No sense trying to eat as just back from the dentist. Lost a chunk of tooth this a.m. and Praise God I got into the dentist by 11:00 right across the street from the office. Sorry not much of a conversationalist last night. Will do better next time. Just was so sleepy. Love you.

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